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These Lovebirds’ Problems Were Resolved by Couples Therapy!

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Irina Jusuf
Written by Irina Jusuf

A relationship is an easy thing to start but difficult to maintain. Many couples are aware of this as they live together, whether they are married or not married. They often face problems that may not be resolved through mutual understanding. When tough times in your love life cannot seemed to be resolved, maybe it’s time for you and your partner to see a therapist or counselor. No need to worry, because even celebrities openly admit that they sometimes have therapy for their relationships. Who are they?

Will Smith & Jada Pinkett

They’ve been dogged by rumors of marriage problems, including talk of divorce and an open marriage for years. Actor Will Smith, revealed he and actress wife Jada Pinkett Smith have turned to couple’s therapy to save their marriage and have gone through ‘dark moments’ after being brutally honest with each other. The Bad Boys actor has previously discussed going to individual therapy, but not marriage counseling. He told The Sun, “For me it’s the dark before the dawn.” In other words, you have gone through rough patches, but if you do it right, there’s light on the other side.

Kristen Bell & Dax Shepard

In 2015, Kristen Bell told Good Housekeeping, “You do better in the gym with a trainer; you don’t figure out how to cook without reading a recipe. Therapy is not something to be embarrassed about.” When the two ran into each other at a Detroit Red Wings hockey game seven and a half years ago, “I thought to myself ‘Who is this sparkly creature?’” he recalls. Below, the pair hold forth on the relationship trick they swear by: counseling. Shepard also explained, “There were hurdles, things she didn’t trust about me, things I didn’t trust about her. I just kept going back to ‘This person has the thing I want, and I have to figure out how we can exist peacefully.’ So we started seeing a therapist together right away.” And that is how it’s done. It’s not always perfect, but if you want to be together, you make your puzzle pieces fit one way or another.”

Beyonce & Jay-Z

The couple has reportedly made therapy a pillar in their marriage for a long time to stay on top of communication. During their “Crazy in Love” tour, they called in to weekly Skype sessions. According to a new report by the Daily Mirror, Beyoncé and Jay Z are having online marriage counseling while on tour. Sure, divorce rumors were spreading like wildfire, but can we leave the elevator incident out of this for once and chalk it up to good online relationship book work? Whatever they’re doing seems to be working, because this picture was taken in June 2016, and they look happy as clams. Please tell us you’ve worked it out, Bey and J!

Pink & Carey Hart

The pair split for 11 months in 2008 before ripping up the divorce papers. “People are always like, ‘Why did you get back together?’” she says. “Well, we weren’t done. And now we have Willow, so we’ll never be done.” They may have split up in 2008, but the couple now has a budding family together, and Pink told Redbook that they are couples-therapy people. “We do it for maintenance, not problems,” she said. One thing they have learned on the couch? That fighting is a good thing as long as you have a goal to resolve something.

Cameron Diaz & Benji Madden

These two lovebirds got married in their living room just a few months after dating. A source told Star Magazine that they had already started marriage counseling as a preventive measure to avoid potential stumbles. The story goes on saying that Nicole Richie was encouraging them to go to counseling. She told Cameron, “this is how you make a marriage work.”

Cameron is all for hashing things out in therapy. “My life would not be half as fulfilled as it is without therapy,” she mentioned. “I take care of myself. I enjoy taking care of myself. It also helps keep my head clear, and it helps me stay focused on my work and my life, and I just use it as a way of maintaining a certain standard of life.” Cameron herself has spoken about therapy in her personal life as a way to take care of herself, so more power to them.

3 Things that can be Learned in Couples Therapy

Rule #1: Marriage is a 100-percent commitment

You can’t have one foot in and one foot out. So, you have to dive in and be willing to be executed for the sake of the love you want.

Rule #2: Fighting can be a good thing

It’s extremely unpleasing to have couple retreating to the sides of the dinner table without having a single word to say. Do something! When you give up and become silent, the relationship is about to reach its doom.

Rule #3: Learn to accept your spouse for who he or she is as a person.

Don’t expect anything else from your spouse. Whether it’s good, bad or ugly, you’ve got to love her/him just the way she/he is.

Good advice is always welcomed!

(By: Irina/various sources)

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Irina Jusuf

Irina Jusuf